This past fall I determined to put aside my multitasking ways and become more intentional with my time.
I was going to do whatever was in front of me with my whole heart. Working on a project, grading papers, talking with one of my kids, helping someone with math, whatever came up I would give it my full attention.
So, girls, how am I doing?
I'd give myself a B-.
Where am I falling short? Two areas.
One I need to improve, while the other might not actually be a problem.
The first area, well... I'll just come right out and say it, I'm a little addicted to my phone.
Admitting it is the first step in tackling a problem. I'm one step closer.
Being able to instantly communicate with people and check my email is a temptation I'm trying to conquer. I have the ability to put it aside when we have guests or if we're visiting someone or while I'm in the car, so what's my problem?
Side note... I have purposed to never text/check email/ Instagram/etc. while in the car. I have three sets of eyes on me and I know they will follow my lead in this. I don't want them to be distracted drivers so I have chosen not to model it in front of them. End side note.
My problem is putting it aside at home, with my girls. Those dings and beeps my phone makes throughout the day are important, but they're not more important than the face to face conversation I may be having with one of my kids at the time. Why do I answer to it like one of Pavlov's dogs?
I'm working on it.
The second area is watching videos. We don't do broadcast TV, but we enjoy our Netflix videos and other DVDs we've accumulated over the years. During these winter months especially, we'll sit down together in the evening and watch one of them.
But I have trouble just sitting and watching. I've never been good at it.
Ashley isn't any good at it either. She has to keep her hands busy. That's why she keeps a crochet project beside her at all times. Constantly. Even in the car.
She watches and crochets.
I watch and work.
It's not a problem if she's crocheting, so I'm going to cut myself some slack on this one and say it's not a problem if I'm working while they watch.
Hannah and Amy like to just watch. Ashley and I like to watch and do something. I think it's a personality thing.
So while Ashley makes scarves and hats and blankets, I write science activities or edit pictures.
We're all together in the living room. And togetherness during such a passive activity is what counts.
The phone problem I need to work on. A lot. I admit it.
All in all, I've made some progress. My kids have noticed. But I'm not quite there yet. Still working.
Progress, not perfection. I'm not sure where I read that, but it's where we live.