Every one of us has the opportunity to make good choices. Every one of us has the opportunity to make bad choices.
It's my job to help my girls make good choices now so that one day they will make good choices on their own.
I don't think anyone would disagree that it's easier to make right choices when you see others making right choices.
That's something I think about everyday. Because they are watching me.
It's made me more aware of my responses, because how I respond is how they will learn to respond. They are learning from me everyday. Are my actions teaching the same thing my words are?
If not, then I need to do something different.
My girls grew up with some conflicting teachings. In one family lying may have been a way of life. In another family, lying may have been wrong, but only in certain circumstances. In yet another family, lying may have been wrong altogether.
That's a lot of different families and a lot of different teachings.
So I sometimes teach with my words, but more often I teach with my actions.
Making sure my actions are following my words is a daily struggle. I may have been the mom harshly telling her kids to use kind words. Maybe.
Paying attention to what I am teaching them takes effort. Responding in love takes practice.
I'm working on it.