No matter what happens today, tomorrow gets to be a fresh start.
That's just how we roll around here. It's how we have to roll because a whole lot can go wrong on any given day.
I wasn't good at this the first time around. I wanted some sort of consequence for every little thing. This kid was not going to get away with anything. Not on my watch.
But that was unrealistic and tiresome. I'm only one person. She could do a bunch of stuff in a day. She was busy.
So I had to take a step back. I had to extend some grace, both for her growth and my sanity.
Not every problem will get ironed out today.
You'll want it to. You'll have trouble letting some of it go. It might even feel like you're losing and she's winning - and that will bother you more than you even want to admit.
But stop and think this through. Is she really winning? Is her out of control behavior really winning her anything?
No. She's losing and she knows it. She just doesn't know how to stop.
That's where you come in. You have to teach her how to stop, but you can't teach her how to stop everything all at once. She just won't be able to do it. She needs time to build self-control and trust and a whole bunch of other stuff.
It's hard to give her that time - believe me, I know it.
But she needs it.
Every day gets to be a new day. Every day. Even the ones that follow the worst day ever.
That day, too.
Keep short accounts with the new one. Use a gentle voice. And try again tomorrow.
It won't always be this hard. One day, these days will be hard to remember.
One of my girls told me once that this, more than anything else, was how they felt love when they first joined our family.
Let tomorrow be a new day.